Couple Therapy
Most love relationships are idyllic at first – you cannot even imagine that something could go wrong, and nothing bothers you about your partner. Optimism is at its peak at the beginning of the relationship and over time the infatuation only grows. However, it is important to remember that even seemingly perfect relationships require hard work and effort. At the beginning of a relationship, many really try to keep the other person happy, but over time they relax, and the cloud of happiness gradually disappears. On the other hand, sometimes relationship problems are not the fault of the partners, but life is simply unpredictable; unexpected situations can affect the stability of your relationship. With a stronger connection and a longer-term relationship, comes greater responsibility and stronger feelings – one could say that the stakes are higher. For this reason, it is important to take care of partnerships on a regular basis – we could say that marital or partner therapy is a part of the basic partner psycho-hygiene.
Partner therapy offers you tools to repair relationships and set some things up again – a third party, a professional will objectively look at your problems and guide you on how to proceed. The measure of the success of partner therapy is not always about staying in a relationship but solving the problem in a healthy and responsible way, so that the optimal solution is found for all involved.
How to recognize when it is the right time for partner therapy?
A good indicator that you have reached that point in your relationship is if you are already seriously considering therapy. Often the “trigger” is the feeling that your life is becoming too difficult, and communication becomes worthless, and you and your partner get stuck in a circle without solving anything. However, there are some more specific indicators, such as “treacherous” signs that are a good signal that your relationship will benefit from partner therapy:
- Frequent conflicts,
- alienation,
- fatigue,
- jealousy,
- emotional coldness,
- communication problems,
- psychological violence,
- physical violence,
- sex problems,
- thinking about divorce.
All of the above is harmful for you and your partner, and especially for your children. If you ignore these problems, you will let them grow and reach limits from which it is difficult to return, and you will damage your mental health. Frequent and great conflicts leave a deep emotional scar because they bring along difficult words that will be remembered for a long time and slowly poison the relationship.
Emotional distance is a silent killer – you usually only notice it when your partner is completely isolated from you and you feel lonely and insecure.
The good news is that research shows that therapy has a positive effect on more than half of couples in the long run. However, people often wait too long before seeking professional help – some do not want to admit that they have problems because they are ashamed, or they are not ready to face their feelings or think that everything will work out on its own. Trust me, it’s always better to seek help on time because I’ve worked with a lot of couples in the past who have waited too long, and the damage has been too great for us to save the relationship. If you visit me on time, I can, as a third party and expert, help you using strategies and tools that will facilitate your communication and teach you how to develop healthy dynamics in your relationship, so be brave and decide to go to therapy at the right time.